How To Make People Like You
A small guide on how to be likeable

How To Make People Like You

The all illusive question; 'How do I make people like me?'

Everyone has probably asked this question at least once in their life,

First of all, and let's get this straight, not everyone is going to like you,

You're always going to find that person who doesn't like you for some reason or another, but do you really wanna be liked by them?

Do you care about them honestly?

But look, you CAN be liked by most people, you just have to do certain things and avoid doing others.

Today I'll share with you how you can be liked by people in your school, work, or anywhere you go.

Let's start with a story,

I used to play on a team and in this team there were 2 foreign players who didn't speak the language, it was me and another guy.

This other guy, let's call him Tom, (not actual name)

Nobody liked him, like the other players used to be get angry when he arrived,

They would be like; 'Oh sh*t he's here',

And you couldn't blame them, he was very anti-social, slimy, always looking like he was sad or moody, would moan and complain during training and never spoke or interacted with anyone.

I didn't like him as well, I didn't hate him..but I didn't like him either.

He was a strange character.

On the other hand there was me,

Now I don't say this to brag, I'm speaking from my experience, I say it just so you can make a comparison,

Even though I didn't speak the language, the other players still welcomed me and I could tell I was loved by them. I'm a quiet guy, sometimes too quiet but they still included me in the activities and events.

But why is that?

Well, when they spoke to me I spoke back, I joked with them, I smiled and greeted them every time we met and I ran my balls off for them in every match and training session.

You need to give people reasons to like you.

Now don't take this the wrong way by people pleasing or deliberately trying to get people to like you, I'm not saying that.

What I'm saying is don't be a d*ckhead.

Real quick,

This is a video that will Transform your social skills,

Alright, back to it,

Let go of ego and understand that you need people, you need them to move forward in your career, in life, to learn etc.

You are more likely to get a raise if your boss likes you.

BUT at the same time have the self-respect to know that you're fine on your own and to not break your back for someone who's not reflecting the same effort back.

You have to find a balance between the two,

You need to know when to do what.

And my guy, 

It's useless to ask how to make people like you if you always make things about YOU,

Make it about them,

That way they know that you're not some selfish doughnut who just wants to get something out of them.

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The Likeable Book

Real quick there's a book which has taught me a lot about being likeable, people psychology and success in general,

And that book is 'The Magic of Thinking Big',

I honestly don't have enough praise for this book,

It's undoubtedly the best book I've ever read.

I suggest you read it as soon as possible,

It will change your life and teach you things that never crossed your mind about high achievers, low achievers, and what separates the two.

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Story #2

Let me tell you another story. Let's call this new guy Bob.

So for some context I used to live in a boarding school, so we were in a room of three people and we eat, sleep and live there,

Now in my room I had Bob, now Bob was a character, he was okay when he wanted to be, but oh my days he had his moments.

Now this guy had no manners,

Small things like being rude to the people who serve you lunch, leaving the dinner table when he's ready and not waiting for the others, always thinking that he's right, always bragging, always looking to one up poeple etc.

And this used to get on people's nerves, and rightly so.

Then he used to come up to me and ask me;

'Why don't people like me?'

and

'How does everyone like you and not me?'

And in my head I'm like 'YOU FINALLY REALISED? What do you think?'

He was oblivious to the fact that he used to do this stuff,

He was selfish, cause it was always about him.

No joke, he's the exact opposite of what you should do to make people like you,

And he never understood why people don't like him (I know why),

This means that if someone thinks that you are good at something they'll pay extra close attention to you while you do it and praise you afterwards,

If someone thinks you're annoying they'll have something to say every time you do something or utter a word.

Remember, sometimes it's not about what a person does, it depends on who does it,

Different people can do the exact same things and get completely different reactions.

The brain works in a way that looks for proof that it's current beliefs are correct,

You probably experience this with ignoring the mistakes of people you like and focusing only on the mistakes of people you don't.

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I've had people ask me 'How can I be liked at work? and How can I be likeable?' And I always respond in the same way;

Would you like you?

Would you have fun around you if it was a different person?

If, no then what can you do? What should you change?

What do you do that makes people annoyed at you?

Often times it's the basics, manners, body language, work ethic.

Just think about it, if you make someone's day better (which is easy btw) they'll like you.

Just a smile is enough sometimes,

A sentence can change someone's day,

Once before training a friend told me that he doesn't want to train and that he wants to go home,

I replied with 'I feel good today, the sun is out, we get to train, life is good bro, besides it's only an hour and a half, just do your best for 90 minutes and then you can rest'

The he told me 'Thank you, I feel better now'

And after I could tell he was actually feeling better, he was running, joking and seemed like he was having fun as well.

I see it in so many places, the same question over and over,

'How to be liked as an introvert?'

And in my head I'm like bro you have it all wrong, it has nothing to do with being an introvert.

It has everything to do with you being likeable, meaning,

How easy is it to like you? (or at least not hate you)

Cause if you're the person everybody hates (which I assume you're not) it's probably not for nothing.

Just put in a little extra effort to help people, smile, be respectful and you'll realise that many people will automatically like you,

You see, sometimes it's not about doing big things like getting your co-worker a new car for their birthday, it's about not doing small things like speaking over others or holding the door open as they come in.

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How To Make People Like You : Summary

In this article I gave you a list of things that make people dislike you and gave you some suggestions on how to be a likeable person,

This all means nothing though if you do it with an agenda,

You should act this way because it's how you act, it's your default state,

People can see through your bullsh*t,

And I'm sure you're experienced someone being nice just cause he needs something from you,

Don't be that person (no one likes them)

Be the person people can rely on,

The person who is well-mannered, respectful, has self-respect and doesn't need to put others down for him to feel good about himself.

In all honesty it's not the hardest thing in the world to be liked by everyone, but the secret lies not in what you do, it's in what you don't do,

And sometimes realising what makes people hate you can be hard to see.

• Give people reasons to like you
• Don't give people reasons to dislike you
• Don't do things with a hidden agenda, people can tell
• Don't be fake, be friendly, there's a difference
• Put in effort, people can't help but respect it
• People don't respect the guy who's doesn't put in an ounce of effort
• Don't be weird, just be a normal human being